Finding YOUR Order & Clarity
Assessing what is important to YOU and aligning your actions to those values.
Getting your poop in a group goes beyond meal planning and tidying your closets. While those are certainly commendable goals (which I will never accomplish), there's a deeper meaning having clarity in your life.
When we are talking about finding your clarity, that could look different for everyone. It’s easy to say, “My goal is to organize my pantry.” But what if you just don’t have the energy, motivation, or time...
Clarity (for my purposes) is the values you hold and learning to move forward in those values, even if others do not approve.
We can set small goals all day long, and maybe even achieve them, but often, there are barriers such as a lack of motivation, fear of disappointing a loved one, insufficient resources, or a lack of confidence.
To effectively make a habit change, it must be important to you, and you must have the confidence that you can achieve that habit change.
Minor changes to your daily habits can significantly improve motivation and help you move closer to your goals.
The problem is that when you have no motivation and are anxious about what others may think, the last thing you want to do is make a change. That is a debilitating combination.
You want to veg out in your jammies watching Netflix.
Me too.
But if nothing changes...nothing changes, and science tells us that motivation follows action. So the less you do, the worse you feel.
Sorry Netflix...but I do love me some Netflix...
Values Assessment:
All things begin with assessing your values.
What is important to you in terms of your health, education or career, personal life or relationships, and leisure time?
Once you assess your values, consider whether your current behaviors are aligned with them. If they are, is there anything you would like to adjust to better align with your values? What small daily habit can you begin to make that shift?
Assessing your values is the first step. If you have five kids, your closets are a disaster, and you eat hot dogs or crustaceans for lunch daily, consider whether this aligns with my values.
It might be, it might not be, and whatever is aligned to your values, is the right answer....no matter what your mother-in-law thinks.
Other people can have their thoughts and opinions about you, and you can live your life the way you want anyway (within reason, obviously...or you could end up living your life in prison.)
Jamie VanderLinden
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Behavior change is impossible unless it’s aligned with your values, important to you, and you are confident that you can achieve the new habit.
If any one of those pieces is missing, reassess and choose a new goal. You get to decide what this looks like for you.
Journal or Consider for Yourself:
What is your values in relation to your health, education or career, personal life or relationships, and leisure time?
Are your actions aligned with those values?
What would it look like to be more aligned with your values?
Will your current daily habits carry you to your desired value?